The Circle of Goddesses

So many women say they want closure yet have a hard time finding it. They wonder why they can’t free themselves from thoughts and emotions regarding their exes. They say they don’t want to think about their ex-boyfriend or ex-husband but their minds always seem to drift in that direction. They can’t sleep at night because their exes are on their minds and when they wake up in the morning they remember the dream they had about him while they were sleeping.

Why is closure so elusive for so many women? Could women actually be sabotaging themselves from getting the closure they profess to want so desperately? Or maybe they don’t really want closure but use their need to have it as a way to keep them locked in their obsessive, unproductive thoughts of getting back together with their ex.

Here are some ways that women keep themselves in limbo rather than get closure:

Needing to know: What is he doing right now? Is he hurting? Does he miss me? Does he regret losing me? Does he plan on reuniting with me? Is he happy that it is over? Is he ready to date someone else? Is he ready to sleep with someone else? Has he slept or dated someone else? Does he care about her? Was the sex good? How can he act like nothing is wrong when I am devastated ? Will he ever find someone he loves more than me? Did he actually love me?

What difference does the answer to any of the questions make in your life? These questions are all about HIM, not YOU. No wonder you can’t move on and move forward!!! The answers will not give you closure, because you will only have MORE questions!

Women have wonderful imaginations and are curious by nature. So if we can’t talk to our ex or find out what is going on, we can simply fantasize about it! You can imagine telling him all the horrible things he has done and why he doesn’t deserve to be back with you, you can imagine tears running down his face when he says how sorry he is, you can go over conversations over and over and over again so you know just what to say should you ever see/talk to him. You can picture him miserable, broken down and suffering. The problem is you are living in your imagination too much rather than accepting your reality and dealing with it.

Taking walks down memory lane: While men try to avoid anything that could remind them of their ex, women tend to do the opposite. Women will re-read emails and letters to the point that they have them memorized. That takes them on a literary journey through the relationship they just got out of and re-opens the wounds so they cannot heal. In most cases at times of breakups, women tend to focus on the “shiny happy times” before your ex showed his true colors. We think of all the things we will miss, how the relationship could have worked “If only he ____”, and the pure shame of it all. What women DON’T tend to focus on is the bad side of their ex and all the reasons why it didn’t work out. What they need to realize though is that the signs were probably there from the beginning. Instead of thinking of all the wonderfulness of your ex, think about how much he made you cry, how often you were disappointed, dissatisfied, insecure, angry, hurt, etc.

But don’t dwell on that either because you still won’t get closure. Give yourself ample time to grieve the death of the relationship and then switch your gears to enjoying your LIFE again. You did before he showed up and you can do it now that he is gone.

If you need help obtaining closure from your relationship and seeing if it is time to move on to the next phase of your life, call Lady Sarah or Sophia Elise. During a psychic reading or tarot reading with them, they will be able to see if it is in your best interest to wait it out or move on for good. During your love and relationship reading, Lady Sarah and Sophia Elise will be able to see deep into the heart of your relationship and help you get the answers you need. Talking to friends about our relationship issues is great, but sometimes they dont have the ability to know or understand what is going on beneath the surface. Lady Sarah and Sophia are love, relationship and soulmate experts and they will be able to help you see what to do. A psychic reading or tarot reading with Circle of Goddesses will show you if you truly do need closure and give you advice on how to get it.

For more articles on CLOSURE and how to get it in relationships, visit www.iwantclosure.com

With astrology we can analyze the birth chart and determine certain personality traits and characteristics of any individual, as well as the life path they will take. Certain transits in the birth chart, and at times, transiting planets, will determine the answer to the question, “Will He/She Cheat.”

While transits may determine the probability of a cheater, it is important to remember that while a person may have the transits to be a cheater, all individuals have control over their own brain and actions. Sometimes, these tendencies are curbed by conditioning, religious beliefs and maturity.

Having the transits of a cheater doesn’t mean you have to fulfill that role. But, in all probability, in this day and age, chances are strong that if an individual was born with ‘cheating’ transits they will cheat. Sometimes, events (transits) occur that cause a cheater to change their ways, and sometimes these events never occur and the person never changes. That is usually the case. Sometimes, an individual who is not ‘born to cheat,’ gets caught up in situations and makes a decision to stray from an established relationship. This is astrologically speaking, a horse of another color than a ‘born cheater.’

To know if your significant other/interest is a ‘born cheater,’ the transits in the birth chart must be carefully analyzed. There is no single transit for a cheater, there are probably millions. There are no simple generalizations. Often, cheaters are born with planets that represent divorce. This is usually represented by some type of hard aspect between Uranus, and Venus, or Mars and Venus. But, every divorced person is not a cheater. And, at times they are the victims of cheaters.

Cheating birth charts almost always contain a hard Neptune aspect. Neptune is the planet of illusion, delusion and confusion, and well as secrets and lies. A person with prominent Neptune aspects in their chart can soar to the highest of highs, touching the divine or they can sink to the lowest depths of human depravity. Sometimes, in a life time they do both.

Neptune represents both the preacher, the spiritual guru, and the drug addict and the prostitute. It’s a complex planet. But, it’s often there when cheating is involved. Neptune can create a cheater sometimes when it’s touching Venus, Mars or Mercury, especially from the seventh house of marriage. But, this is a generalization again, and this transit alone does not guarantee a cheater, and Neptune in the seventh house can also represent a person who is going to be cheated on. Another possibility of a cheater is someone who has a lot of Gemini or Sagittarius in their chart and likes to keep things interesting.

These individuals are often not satisfied with just one partner and like to experiment and have a distaste for that which becomes mundane. But again, having multiple planets in these signs alone does not guarantee multiple partners. Mars or Pluto in the eighth house is another sign of a person who loves sex.

These people are usually more interested in the erotic side of life than most. This depends upon many factors including what aspects Mars or Pluto in the eighth house is making. Society began to change in the late fifties/early sixties, and a generation was born with Neptune is Scorpio (1957-1970). These individuals in particular, are sometimes unclear about sexual boundaries.

Again, this is a generalization, and if you were born during these years it is absolutely no guarantee you will cheat! But, Scorpio is the natural ruler of the eighth house of shared/joint finances, change and transformation and sex. Sex often has a great fascination for these individuals and some will experience vague and uncertain states connected to emotional and sexual involvement with others. Sometimes it exerts a magnetic influence, although the real thing often does not meet expectations.

So, while there are a million fourteen transits that will help identify a cheater, the entire chart must come under scrutiny before making that accessment. And it all really comes down to what we want as individuals and what price they we willing to pay for it.

used with permission from Leslie Hale, Astrolger

This is an easy and fun to do love spell to find out if your significant other is trustworthy. It can really be done on any night of the week, although love spells are preferably done on Saturday night. Also the phase of  the moon does not need so much to be taken into consideration, although a waxing moon is really better to BRING love and romance into your life and a waning moon when you are trying to REMOVE something from your life.

Take two nuts, such as pecans or walnuts and write your name on one and the name of your true love on the other. Place them in a grate on the fire. Now you must watch… and wait…  If the nuts burn slow and steady it indicates they will be faithful. If the nut pops from the fire and heat, it indicates that they are not to be trusted.

The Nigerian Scammers are everywhere, they are in chat rooms, on Myspace, Facebook, tagged.com and almost every internet dating website. The way these con artists operate is under the guise of wanting a mature long term relationship, that they are just “looking for love”.  In truth though, all they are  looking for your MONEY.