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So many women wonder if their current relationship will change. They wait patiently (and are now impatient) to see if things will get better. They are waiting around to see if their boyfriend or husband will magically change into the man they first fell in love with, or at least a man that no longer drives her crazy.

The questions you really need answers to are as follows:

1) What created these changes in the first place?
2) Do you have any responsibility in those changes occurring?
3) Do you need to make any changes as well? What is it you need to do?
4) Would you be willing to make changes if you have to? Can you make those changes?
5) Do you feel that change may no longer be possible? How can you get hope back, if there is any?
6) Do you feel he (your boyfriend or husband) has all the power in your relationship and you have none? How can you get some power back?
7) Are you having the same arguments all the time? What will it take to get those issues solved?
8  Are you the best thing that has ever happened to him yet he is, at times, your worst nightmare?
9) Are you frustrated by what could be between you and your boyfriend or husband and feel it is such a shame that he is ruining everything?
10) Are you enabling him NOT to change?

There are reasons why people change. They are the catalyst that brings about change. What reason does your boyfriend or husband have to change? If they are happy, and you are not, don’t expect them to make changes. Change is HARD. We usually only do it if we have to. Does he have to? Or will you just keep being miserable while he is the happy dictator in your relationship?

Psychics Lady Sarah and Sophia Elise are prepared to help you answer those questions, and to guide you along the path towards change. Stop staying stuck where you are. It will only get worse. Find out with a psychic love reading if your relationship will change, can change, and how to bring about POSITIVE, not NEGATIVE change. You have more power than you think, let psychics Sophia Elise and Lady Sarah empower you to take control of your relationship and get it back on track.

Some relationships will not bend to change, but will break instead. Should you be waiting for your dream to come true, that he will make those changes and the two of you will ride off into the sunset? What if this change is never going to happen? Don’t you want to know before you waste more of your time? Psychics Sophia Elise and Lady Sarah won’t sugarcoat things. They will tell you like it is, good or bad. Keep in mind, when we tell our female clients to make changes to make the men in their life change, they often resist us, or say they can’t change. And guess what? Their relationship does not change, things only go from bad to worse. Is that what you want? Are you ready for the change you say you want so bad?

A psychic love reading, relationship reading or soulmate reading with Sophia Elise or Lady Sarah can really get your relationship back on track if possible and they will able to give you the guidance you need to make it so or the courage you need to move on.

Is your boyfriend or husband pushing the envelope with his bad behavior? Do you wonder why he keeps crossing line after line and is unafraid of the consequences? Do you ask yourself (and others) “Why isn’t he afraid of losing me?”

Well, one answer to that question could be ”Because you have taken all that fear away from him”. Another answer could be “Because he really doesn’t care if he loses you”.

Which one is it?

I am not afraid of losing my newspaper because I could simply go out and buy another one, plus the newspaper is not that important to me. I throw it out at the end of the day. Is that how your boyfriend or husband feels about you? Does he think you are replaceable? Does he give you very little worth in his life? If he does, that is your answer right there. You are not afraid to lose something that holds little or no value to you.

The other answer is more complex. If you have repeatedly led your boyfriend or husband to believe that no matter what he does, says, doesn’t do, or doesn’t say that you are not going anywhere then why should he be afraid of losing you? You convinced him that you will put up with anything he dishes out, so why should he be afraid? If there have been no consequences to his actions, nothing negative happens to him after he does what he does, so of course he will do it again.

Let’s use football as an example. You and your husband agree that on Sunday you both have to get some work done around the house. He promises week after week to do it, yet keeps watching the football game. You get angry week after week, and because these things need to get done, you do it yourself or keep on him that this stuff has to get done.

Let’s look at that from his perspective. There is work he doesn’t want to do. It isn’t fun. Watching the game is. What price does he pay to watch that game and not do the work? Some complaining from you. He decides that is a fair enough price to pay to do what he wants and not what you want him to do. So what do you do? RAISE THE PRICE TO SOMETHING HE CANNOT AFFORD OR IS NOT WILLING TO PAY.

So when you wonder why he isn’t afraid of losing you, ask yourself if you made idle threats. Did you tell him if he continues to do “x” you would end the relationship? Did he continue to do it and you did not end the relationship? If the answer is yes, then why did you threaten him with no follow through? You taught him to call your bluff because you do not mean what you say. Either stop threatening him or learn to follow through. Only then will he take you seriously.

If you are worried or depressed because you feel powerless in your relationship and that your husband or boyfriend is not afraid of losing you, give Lady Sarah and Sophia Elise a call for a psychic love reading or tarot card reading for you and your relationship. They can tell you if your guy just simply doesn’t care enough to be afraid, or if you can do something to make him afraid of losing you.

This article is not about how to trap a man and get him to be yours forever and ever but the ways women often trap men into falling flat on their faces. Quite often women set men up for failure, and then get upset when they (the women) feel hurt, slighted, or unloved. Every woman has the right to feel unloved if the person she is involved with is not showing loving behavior towards her. The problem is, some women attach feeling “unloved” to every little thing.

Now if your boyfriend or husband knows it is your birthday and doesn’t wish you a happy birthday, get you anything, or acknowledge it in any way shape or form, sure, you can feel upset and hurt and rightfully so. BUT, if you told your man not to do anything for your birthday and did not WANT it acknowledged in any way shape or form WHY are you now upset because he didn’t?  Sorry, that one is on you. You set him up to hurt you.

Why play games like that where everyone loses? If the man in your life responds to your telephone messages and emails right away, but hates texting and does not respond to texts, WHY ARE YOU INSISTING ON TEXTING HIM? So you can get mad at him? Why force the text issue where there are other ways of communicating? And if that isn’t bad enough, some women have men that are basically good, show loving behavior towards them, treat them well, but the ONE time he doesn’t do what she wants he MUST not love her. Really? Grow up.

People will not always do everything perfect, and you won’t either. Sometimes you have to look at the big picture, not every little thing all by itself. So he screwed up one time. Let it slide unless of course it is a BIG screw-up. If you were the perfect employee and had ONE bad day, would you want your future with the company, your reputation, your bonus, and your pay to be judged on that ONE day? Hell no. You would insist that all your hard work over the years count for something. Well, it is the same in relationships too.

If you ask him stupid questions like “What don’t you like about me?” then you are obviously looking for a fight if you can’t hear the answer and suck it up like an adult. Don’t ask for the truth unless you are ready to hear it and behave like an adult.

If every person could read everyone else’s mind there would BE no relationships. Think about some of the thoughts and feelings that go through your head on a daily basis. What if the people in your life heard them all? Would they hate you right now? Would they even be speaking to you right now? Would you even have a job if your boss heard every thought in your head? Probably NOT.

So, why snoop and read emails he sends to other people? What are you really looking for? If your relationship sucks that bad that you need to find out if he is cheating, checking into things is not so bad. But do you have to read the email he sends his mother or best friend?

The bottom line is that relationships are hard enough, and if you have a good one, be glad you do, and don’t look for ways to cause trouble or ways to sabotage it.

A few women were recently discussing relationships and one was mentioning that her new, less than 6 months old, relationship had numerous issues and problems they couldn’t get past. One woman suggested couples counseling. I was stunned. Other women at the table agreed it might be a good idea. I was more stunned.

Once I picked my jaw off the floor I said “Why not end it?”. The women turned to me and they were stunned.

“Why end it?” one said.

I asked “Why continue when the signs are so obvious and numerous that is not the right relationship?” I went on to explain that dating is a process we are supposed to use to find the right one for us, and if he is not, let him go and keep looking.

Women now seem to find the wrong guy and then try and make him the right guy! This works less than 1% of the time, if that. They waste years and years crying, fighting, and for what?

Is this really less work and more fun than dumping the wrong guy and putting that same effort into finding the right one? Is it really easier to have the same jamoke do that same shit that pissed you off the last 100 times he did it than to try and find someone who won’t do that to you?

Is it more fun to be disappointed when the same promises are broken time and time again as opposed to trying to find someone whose promise is something more than lip service? Is it more entertaining to try and force, mold, and shape someone into what you want them to be (and they fight you every step of the way) than to find someone who is that guy already? Don’t tell me its hard to find the right guy when you aren’t even lookingand instead wasting time with the wrong one. Don’t complain that you don’t want to be alone when you are with someone who makes you feel alone even when they are there. Don’t tell me you can invest time, energy, effort, tears, etc on the wrong guy, but you can’ invest in yourself? Why don’t you stop trying to make dysfunctional, failing relationships work, and instead focus on you. It is better use of your time, resources and energy.

ARE YOU CONFUSED ABOUT WHAT TO DO WITH YOUR DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIP? ARE YOU STRUGGLING TO FIGURE OUT IF IT IS TIME TO MOVE ON OR IF IT IS WORTH FIXING? SOPHIA AND LADY SARAH ARE ABLE TO SEE DEEP INTO THE HEART OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP ISSUES TO SEE WHERE THEY ARE BROKEN. IF IT IS FIXABLE THEY WILL GIVE YOU THE TOOLS TO FIX IT. IF IT IS BROKEN BEYOND REPAIR THEY WILL HELP YOU MOVE ON. GIVE THEM A CALL TODAY AND STOP WASTING TIME IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT IS MAKING YOU UNHAPPY! THEY ARE HERE TO HELP!

So many women say they want closure yet have a hard time finding it. They wonder why they can’t free themselves from thoughts and emotions regarding their exes. They say they don’t want to think about their ex-boyfriend or ex-husband but their minds always seem to drift in that direction. They can’t sleep at night because their exes are on their minds and when they wake up in the morning they remember the dream they had about him while they were sleeping.

Why is closure so elusive for so many women? Could women actually be sabotaging themselves from getting the closure they profess to want so desperately? Or maybe they don’t really want closure but use their need to have it as a way to keep them locked in their obsessive, unproductive thoughts of getting back together with their ex.

Here are some ways that women keep themselves in limbo rather than get closure:

Needing to know: What is he doing right now? Is he hurting? Does he miss me? Does he regret losing me? Does he plan on reuniting with me? Is he happy that it is over? Is he ready to date someone else? Is he ready to sleep with someone else? Has he slept or dated someone else? Does he care about her? Was the sex good? How can he act like nothing is wrong when I am devastated ? Will he ever find someone he loves more than me? Did he actually love me?

What difference does the answer to any of the questions make in your life? These questions are all about HIM, not YOU. No wonder you can’t move on and move forward!!! The answers will not give you closure, because you will only have MORE questions!

Women have wonderful imaginations and are curious by nature. So if we can’t talk to our ex or find out what is going on, we can simply fantasize about it! You can imagine telling him all the horrible things he has done and why he doesn’t deserve to be back with you, you can imagine tears running down his face when he says how sorry he is, you can go over conversations over and over and over again so you know just what to say should you ever see/talk to him. You can picture him miserable, broken down and suffering. The problem is you are living in your imagination too much rather than accepting your reality and dealing with it.

Taking walks down memory lane: While men try to avoid anything that could remind them of their ex, women tend to do the opposite. Women will re-read emails and letters to the point that they have them memorized. That takes them on a literary journey through the relationship they just got out of and re-opens the wounds so they cannot heal. In most cases at times of breakups, women tend to focus on the “shiny happy times” before your ex showed his true colors. We think of all the things we will miss, how the relationship could have worked “If only he ____”, and the pure shame of it all. What women DON’T tend to focus on is the bad side of their ex and all the reasons why it didn’t work out. What they need to realize though is that the signs were probably there from the beginning. Instead of thinking of all the wonderfulness of your ex, think about how much he made you cry, how often you were disappointed, dissatisfied, insecure, angry, hurt, etc.

But don’t dwell on that either because you still won’t get closure. Give yourself ample time to grieve the death of the relationship and then switch your gears to enjoying your LIFE again. You did before he showed up and you can do it now that he is gone.

If you need help obtaining closure from your relationship and seeing if it is time to move on to the next phase of your life, call Lady Sarah or Sophia Elise. During a psychic reading or tarot reading with them, they will be able to see if it is in your best interest to wait it out or move on for good. During your love and relationship reading, Lady Sarah and Sophia Elise will be able to see deep into the heart of your relationship and help you get the answers you need. Talking to friends about our relationship issues is great, but sometimes they dont have the ability to know or understand what is going on beneath the surface. Lady Sarah and Sophia are love, relationship and soulmate experts and they will be able to help you see what to do. A psychic reading or tarot reading with Circle of Goddesses will show you if you truly do need closure and give you advice on how to get it.

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