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A few women were recently discussing relationships and one was mentioning that her new, less than 6 months old, relationship had numerous issues and problems they couldn’t get past. One woman suggested couples counseling. I was stunned. Other women at the table agreed it might be a good idea. I was more stunned.

Once I picked my jaw off the floor I said “Why not end it?”. The women turned to me and they were stunned.

“Why end it?” one said.

I asked “Why continue when the signs are so obvious and numerous that is not the right relationship?” I went on to explain that dating is a process we are supposed to use to find the right one for us, and if he is not, let him go and keep looking.

Women now seem to find the wrong guy and then try and make him the right guy! This works less than 1% of the time, if that. They waste years and years crying, fighting, and for what?

Is this really less work and more fun than dumping the wrong guy and putting that same effort into finding the right one? Is it really easier to have the same jamoke do that same shit that pissed you off the last 100 times he did it than to try and find someone who won’t do that to you?

Is it more fun to be disappointed when the same promises are broken time and time again as opposed to trying to find someone whose promise is something more than lip service? Is it more entertaining to try and force, mold, and shape someone into what you want them to be (and they fight you every step of the way) than to find someone who is that guy already? Don’t tell me its hard to find the right guy when you aren’t even lookingand instead wasting time with the wrong one. Don’t complain that you don’t want to be alone when you are with someone who makes you feel alone even when they are there. Don’t tell me you can invest time, energy, effort, tears, etc on the wrong guy, but you can’ invest in yourself? Why don’t you stop trying to make dysfunctional, failing relationships work, and instead focus on you. It is better use of your time, resources and energy.

ARE YOU CONFUSED ABOUT WHAT TO DO WITH YOUR DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIP? ARE YOU STRUGGLING TO FIGURE OUT IF IT IS TIME TO MOVE ON OR IF IT IS WORTH FIXING? SOPHIA AND LADY SARAH ARE ABLE TO SEE DEEP INTO THE HEART OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP ISSUES TO SEE WHERE THEY ARE BROKEN. IF IT IS FIXABLE THEY WILL GIVE YOU THE TOOLS TO FIX IT. IF IT IS BROKEN BEYOND REPAIR THEY WILL HELP YOU MOVE ON. GIVE THEM A CALL TODAY AND STOP WASTING TIME IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT IS MAKING YOU UNHAPPY! THEY ARE HERE TO HELP!

Allow me to assist you in breaking through the barriers that hold you back from achieving your full potential in life, love, romance, career and business to put you on the right path to success and personal freedom.

I will guide you along your path and provide guidance to help you attain the desires of your heart in matters of love, life and career. I will assist you in finding balance in your spiritual, personal and professional life as well as attain peace of mind and the right path for your future.

Psychic Lady Sarah and psychic Sophia offer private psychic readings via click4advisor. Simply sign up with click4advisor and get your psychic reading today! All psychic readings are private and the psychic reader is never given your personal information. Our qualified professional psychic readers are available 24/7, ready to give you the best psychic reading possible. At this time are psychic readers are available only by phone. Our psychic readers are not offering email psychic readings at this time. Both of our psychic readers are gifted tarot readers and clairvoyant psychic readers. Our psychic readers are known relationship experts, and your psychic reading can help in all affairs of the heart. One phone call with our psychic readers can help you in areas of love, career, relationships, finance, etc. Soon our psychics will be giving free minutes after your first call, so check back with our psychics to find out when you can get some free minutes towards your next psychic reading. Give one of our professional accurate psychic readers a telephone call, you will be glad you did. If you prefer, you can arrange a call with our psychic readers to get your psychic reading or request an appointment with our psychic readers. Our psychic readers are here for you, and want to help. Pick up the phone and give them a call.

With astrology we can analyze the birth chart and determine certain personality traits and characteristics of any individual, as well as the life path they will take. Certain transits in the birth chart, and at times, transiting planets, will determine the answer to the question, “Will He/She Cheat.”

While transits may determine the probability of a cheater, it is important to remember that while a person may have the transits to be a cheater, all individuals have control over their own brain and actions. Sometimes, these tendencies are curbed by conditioning, religious beliefs and maturity.

Having the transits of a cheater doesn’t mean you have to fulfill that role. But, in all probability, in this day and age, chances are strong that if an individual was born with ‘cheating’ transits they will cheat. Sometimes, events (transits) occur that cause a cheater to change their ways, and sometimes these events never occur and the person never changes. That is usually the case. Sometimes, an individual who is not ‘born to cheat,’ gets caught up in situations and makes a decision to stray from an established relationship. This is astrologically speaking, a horse of another color than a ‘born cheater.’

To know if your significant other/interest is a ‘born cheater,’ the transits in the birth chart must be carefully analyzed. There is no single transit for a cheater, there are probably millions. There are no simple generalizations. Often, cheaters are born with planets that represent divorce. This is usually represented by some type of hard aspect between Uranus, and Venus, or Mars and Venus. But, every divorced person is not a cheater. And, at times they are the victims of cheaters.

Cheating birth charts almost always contain a hard Neptune aspect. Neptune is the planet of illusion, delusion and confusion, and well as secrets and lies. A person with prominent Neptune aspects in their chart can soar to the highest of highs, touching the divine or they can sink to the lowest depths of human depravity. Sometimes, in a life time they do both.

Neptune represents both the preacher, the spiritual guru, and the drug addict and the prostitute. It’s a complex planet. But, it’s often there when cheating is involved. Neptune can create a cheater sometimes when it’s touching Venus, Mars or Mercury, especially from the seventh house of marriage. But, this is a generalization again, and this transit alone does not guarantee a cheater, and Neptune in the seventh house can also represent a person who is going to be cheated on. Another possibility of a cheater is someone who has a lot of Gemini or Sagittarius in their chart and likes to keep things interesting.

These individuals are often not satisfied with just one partner and like to experiment and have a distaste for that which becomes mundane. But again, having multiple planets in these signs alone does not guarantee multiple partners. Mars or Pluto in the eighth house is another sign of a person who loves sex.

These people are usually more interested in the erotic side of life than most. This depends upon many factors including what aspects Mars or Pluto in the eighth house is making. Society began to change in the late fifties/early sixties, and a generation was born with Neptune is Scorpio (1957-1970). These individuals in particular, are sometimes unclear about sexual boundaries.

Again, this is a generalization, and if you were born during these years it is absolutely no guarantee you will cheat! But, Scorpio is the natural ruler of the eighth house of shared/joint finances, change and transformation and sex. Sex often has a great fascination for these individuals and some will experience vague and uncertain states connected to emotional and sexual involvement with others. Sometimes it exerts a magnetic influence, although the real thing often does not meet expectations.

So, while there are a million fourteen transits that will help identify a cheater, the entire chart must come under scrutiny before making that accessment. And it all really comes down to what we want as individuals and what price they we willing to pay for it.

used with permission from Leslie Hale, Astrolger

People call psychics to find answers to questions about work, career, family or finances. But let’s face it, most people make the decision to call a psychic to find clarity in their love relationships. They want answers only a psychic love reading can provide. During a psychic love reading, a love and relationship psychic advisor can tell you where your current relationship is heading, if your partner is cheating or if they are returning after a break up.

A psychic love reading will be able to tell you where your current relationship is headed. If you have been seeing someone for some time, our love and relationship psychics will be able to tell you if this relationship is one that will move into commitment or marriage, if you will have children and so on. A love and relationship reading will also be able to point out any red flags or problems and our psychics will let you know those before they occur so you are prepared and head them off before they become an issue.

A psychic love reading can help you see your relationship from a different perspective. During a psychic love reading your love and relationship psychic will connect not only to your energy, but to the energy of your loved one to see the connection between you. During a psychic love reading, you will be able to assess the barriers that are preventing your current relationship from becoming the relationship you not only desire but deserve. By working closely with your love and relationship psychic during your psychic love reading you can identify the blockages that are holding you back.

A psychic love reading will be able to identify not only surface problems in your relationship, but those that go much deeper, perhaps creating the fear of intimacy preventing your partner from moving forward. A good love and relationship psychic will be able to give you guidance and advice to assist you in breaking past some of these issues.

Many people call for a psychic love reading when they have recently broken up with their partner and want to know if there will be a reconciliation. During the love and relationship reading your psychic will be able to look into the future so you know whether or not your love interest is returning or if it is truly over. If they are returning, a good love and relationship psychic will provide coaching and guidance on what steps you can take to ensure there is not another breakup.

Often during a psychic love reading your love psychic will be able to see and understand the reasons for the breakup. There will be the reasons that were presented to you on the surface by your partner, but very often the real reasons for the breakup are hidden. A psychic love reading will be able to unlock the mystery behind the breakup so you can be fully aware of what happened. For example, your partner may tell you the reasons for ending the relationship are because he wishes to spend more time learning how to weave baskets as it is a life long dream of his. During your psychic love reading, however, your psychic is able to see the real reason for the breakup is because he is insecure due a bad relationship experience in the past. Once you know and understand the truth behind the breakup, and there is a chance for a reconciliation, your love and relationship psychic will be able to outline specific steps to work through their issues.

Even though you may want to get back together with your ex and have been hoping for that to happen sometimes it is just not in the cards for the two of you. A psychic love reading will show whether or not the relationship will come back together A psychic love reading will reveal if it is time to move on. If your love and relationship psychic sees that the relationship has come to and end, they will tell you during your psychic love reading. Our psychics will not keep you stuck in a hopeless situation hoping for change nor will they give you a fairy tale ending if there is not one. If the relationship between you and your ex looks as if it has reached its final closure, your love psychic will tell you the truth.

Many people call a love and relationship psychic to see if their partner is cheating on them. During a psychic love reading, your psychic will be able to see if they have cheated in the past, if they are cheating now or if they plan on cheating in the future. During your psychic love reading your psychic will be able to provide guidance on how to deal with the cheating issue so you can address it from a place of empowerment and control.

Sometimes we have found ourselves walking the solo path for quite some time and wonder if we will ever find ourselves in a romantic situation again. A psychic love reading will reveal if there is someone new coming in to your life. A psychic love reading will tell you if this new person will be there for a season or for the long haul. Our love and relationship psychics will give you the guidance you need to find the man or woman who would make a good partner for you.h

The psychics from the Circle of Goddesses are able to give you insight in love, romance, relationships, career and finance or spiritual growth. You may speak with them by clicking on their Click4Advisor call buttons below. To learn more about our expert psychic advisors, click on the picture below.

I will guide you along your path and provide guidance to help you attain the desires of your heart in matters of love, life and career. I will assist you in finding balance in your spiritual, personal and professional life as well as attain peace of mind and the right path for your future.

Psychic Lady Sarah and psychic Sophia offer private psychic readings via click4advisor. Simply sign up with click4advisor and get your psychic reading today! All psychic readings are private and the psychic reader is never given your personal information. Our qualified professional psychic readers are available 24/7, ready to give you the best psychic reading possible. At this time are psychic readers are available only by phone. Our psychic readers are not offering email psychic readings at this time. Both of our psychic readers are gifted tarot readers and clairvoyant psychic readers. Our psychic readers are known relationship experts, and your psychic reading can help in all affairs of the heart. One phone call with our psychic readers can help you in areas of love, career, relationships, finance, etc. Soon our psychics will be giving free minutes after your first call, so check back with our psychics to find out when you can get some free minutes towards your next psychic reading. Give one of our professional accurate psychic readers a telephone call, you will be glad you did. If you prefer, you can arrange a call with our psychic readers to get your psychic reading or request an appointment with our psychic readers. Our psychic readers are here for you, and want to help. Pick up the phone and give them a call.

All relationships are different.  They are as unique as the two individuals that define them.  Some couples are married, some have an open relationship, some are simply sexual partners with no strings attached, yet each is considered a relationship. Too many people overuse the term relationship to describe the status between themselves and the person they love. Time and again, frustrated clients ask:

• When are we going to be in a committed relationship?
• When will we take our relationship to the next level?

Our questions back to you are:

• If you wanted to be in a committed relationship, why aren’t you?
• Is your partner against committed relationships or not ready for one?
  
• Have you even discussed commitment with them?
• Are you waiting for the “commitment fairy” to fly down and grant you your wish?

The answers to these questions, and more, should be discussed while you are dating. Often we find the term “relationship” is used too loosely and quickly when people first start going out. When you first meet someone and start going out socially with them, you are dating. Period. The dating phase is there for a reason: to discover BEFORE you invest yourself emotionally and psychologically whether or not they are looking for the same things you are. Oscar Hammerstein nailed it in lyrics for his musical “The King and I”: “Getting to know you, getting to know all about you….”  It is during this important dating phase that you are getting to know someone to determine if they will be a good relationship choice for YOU.

Dating is the process of discovering if the person you are “dating” is relationship material. Use this time wisely, and honestly (in other words, don’t kid yourself) to see if this person really is a good prospect for what you are looking for relationship-wise. Now is the time to talk, listen, observe, learn and watch. Listen to what your partner says. Does it match their actions? Listen to what they say then let time and facts prove what they are saying to be truth. Make someone EARN your TRUST. Trust is not something to be given away freely, it should be earned, and if your partner is serious about growing the relationship with you, they will jump hurdles to ensure you trust them.

Be honest and open; let your partner know what you want out of life, relationships, love and sex. This is the time to express your needs and expectations as well as what factors would cause you to end the relationship. These important issues should be discussed during the dating phase, even more than you discuss favorite music, movies and restaurants. Obviously the first words on a first date should not be “Are you ready to get married?” but it should be more than acceptable to ask them what they are looking for.

Of course people can lie to you and they will, or they can “think” they are ready for a relationship when they are not. You will be much better off in the long haul if you find out what you need to know in the beginning. Ask the right questions in the early stages, such as:

• Are you looking for a relationship?
• What does being in a relationship mean to you?
  
• What do you expect out of a relationship, and what can someone expect out of YOU?
• When would you consider monogamy appropriate?
  
• How long would you need to be with someone before you would consider yourself in a relationship?
  
• How long would you need to date someone before you would consider being monogamous?
  
• What about your past relationships do you miss?
  
• What have you learned from your past relationships?
  
• What about your past relationships do you never want to go through again?

Obviously you won’t want to drill someone with all these questions in the first hour of meeting them, and probably not all on the first date, but these questions are more important than knowing where the person went to high school, their favorite song or color, or what kind of car they drive. These are the “road signs” of what to reasonably expect from them if you decide to take the relationship “journey” with them. Keep in mind while this person is sharing their thoughts on the subject, it is your opportunity to speak up to let THEM know what your feelings are so they know what to expect from YOU.

Often during the dating phase, things start to deteriorate. One or both parties will say “It was so good in the beginning; we must be going through a rough patch”.  Why does the rough patch sometimes seem to last longer than the good times? The answer is simply… because the first few months are always the best. Everyone is on their best behavior. As people become comfortable with each other, they let their guard down, and start acting more naturally. So the experience is what it is like to DATE that person for a few months, NOT what it WOULD be like to be in a relationship with them. Big difference.

Many people don’t know when it is time to bail and continue to hold on to the good times waiting for them to return. They don’t. They won’t. Accept it and move on. No one can maintain their “best behavior” for longer than several months. It is difficult and exhausting to maintain the façade. The masks crumble and the true personalities and behaviors are exposed… now THIS is the REAL person. This is who you will have the relationship with. It will never be the same as it was in the beginning. It is just not possible. Cut your losses and move on.

To really KNOW someone you should date regularly for about NINE MONTHS – yes NINE. It does not matter how much you talk on the phone until all hours of the morning, how great the sex is, how wonderful he makes you feel, how intense the connection is or whether both of your grandmothers have the exact same name and birthday… it still takes nine months. After all, that is how long it takes to make a baby, so why should a relationship with someone you want to spend the rest of your life with take any less? It shouldn’t.

Many people operate under the wrong assumption that because they have sex with someone it automatically advances them to relationship status. WRONG! It takes time and patience which unfortunately the majority of people are not willing to invest. In today’s world of instant gratification, largely a byproduct of the internet, many people are looking for “instant relationships”. Remember, there are NO INSTANT RELATIONSHIPS and if you find yourself following this wrong way of thinking, we guarantee it will ultimately bring frustration and heartache.

So many people have sex with someone in the early stages of the dating game and invariably find themselves wondering:

• Is s/he sleeping with anyone else?
  
• Are we exclusive?

The real question, however, is why are you asking yourself this question? You should have asked the person you slept with, during the DATING process…and definitely before sleeping with them.

When a couple has dated long enough – yep, that is NINE MONTHS folks – and decided to be exclusive, they are officially IN a relationship. But where is the relationship going? Will it stay exactly as it is…just an exclusive relationship? Will you co-habitate? Will there be an engagement followed by marriage?

Many people want the relationship to go in one direction but their partner is fine where it is. Now we have two people wanting two different things, each trying to convince the other their way is best. Well, ONE of you is going to LOSE. Now is the time to find out if the relationship is going somewhere, or nowhere. You need to determine if it is going where YOU want it to go and you need to find out NOW rather than waste any more of your precious time. If you want to stay with someone knowing they will never live with you, marry you, have children with you or be committed only to you – that is fine. It is YOUR choice. It is time you made that choice based on REALITY rather than making choices based on your FANTASIES of what could be.

Let us help guide you through the relationship phase so it ends up in the place you want it to be. Let us help you get out of a relationship that is never going to go your way. Isn’t it time you faced the truth?

The psychics from the Circle of Goddesses are able to give you insight in love, romance, relationships, career and finance or spiritual growth. You may speak with them by clicking on their Click4Advisor call buttons below. To learn more about our expert psychic advisors, click on the picture below.

Allow me to assist you in breaking through the barriers that hold you back from achieving your full potential in life, love, romance, career and business to put you on the right path to success and personal freedom.

I will guide you along your path and provide guidance to help you attain the desires of your heart in matters of love, life and career. I will assist you in finding balance in your spiritual, personal and professional life as well as attain peace of mind and the right path for your future.

Psychic Lady Sarah and psychic Sophia offer private psychic readings via click4advisor. Simply sign up with click4advisor and get your psychic reading today! All psychic readings are private and the psychic reader is never given your personal information. Our qualified professional psychic readers are available 24/7, ready to give you the best psychic reading possible. At this time are psychic readers are available only by phone. Our psychic readers are not offering email psychic readings at this time. Both of our psychic readers are gifted tarot readers and clairvoyant psychic readers. Our psychic readers are known relationship experts, and your psychic reading can help in all affairs of the heart. One phone call with our psychic readers can help you in areas of love, career, relationships, finance, etc. Soon our psychics will be giving free minutes after your first call, so check back with our psychics to find out when you can get some free minutes towards your next psychic reading. Give one of our professional accurate psychic readers a telephone call, you will be glad you did. If you prefer, you can arrange a call with our psychic readers to get your psychic reading or request an appointment with our psychic readers. Our psychic readers are here for you, and want to help. Pick up the phone and give them a call.