The Circle of Goddesses

Is your boyfriend or husband pushing the envelope with his bad behavior? Do you wonder why he keeps crossing line after line and is unafraid of the consequences? Do you ask yourself (and others) “Why isn’t he afraid of losing me?”

Well, one answer to that question could be ”Because you have taken all that fear away from him”. Another answer could be “Because he really doesn’t care if he loses you”.

Which one is it?

I am not afraid of losing my newspaper because I could simply go out and buy another one, plus the newspaper is not that important to me. I throw it out at the end of the day. Is that how your boyfriend or husband feels about you? Does he think you are replaceable? Does he give you very little worth in his life? If he does, that is your answer right there. You are not afraid to lose something that holds little or no value to you.

The other answer is more complex. If you have repeatedly led your boyfriend or husband to believe that no matter what he does, says, doesn’t do, or doesn’t say that you are not going anywhere then why should he be afraid of losing you? You convinced him that you will put up with anything he dishes out, so why should he be afraid? If there have been no consequences to his actions, nothing negative happens to him after he does what he does, so of course he will do it again.

Let’s use football as an example. You and your husband agree that on Sunday you both have to get some work done around the house. He promises week after week to do it, yet keeps watching the football game. You get angry week after week, and because these things need to get done, you do it yourself or keep on him that this stuff has to get done.

Let’s look at that from his perspective. There is work he doesn’t want to do. It isn’t fun. Watching the game is. What price does he pay to watch that game and not do the work? Some complaining from you. He decides that is a fair enough price to pay to do what he wants and not what you want him to do. So what do you do? RAISE THE PRICE TO SOMETHING HE CANNOT AFFORD OR IS NOT WILLING TO PAY.

So when you wonder why he isn’t afraid of losing you, ask yourself if you made idle threats. Did you tell him if he continues to do “x” you would end the relationship? Did he continue to do it and you did not end the relationship? If the answer is yes, then why did you threaten him with no follow through? You taught him to call your bluff because you do not mean what you say. Either stop threatening him or learn to follow through. Only then will he take you seriously.

If you are worried or depressed because you feel powerless in your relationship and that your husband or boyfriend is not afraid of losing you, give Lady Sarah and Sophia Elise a call for a psychic love reading or tarot card reading for you and your relationship. They can tell you if your guy just simply doesn’t care enough to be afraid, or if you can do something to make him afraid of losing you.

A few women were recently discussing relationships and one was mentioning that her new, less than 6 months old, relationship had numerous issues and problems they couldn’t get past. One woman suggested couples counseling. I was stunned. Other women at the table agreed it might be a good idea. I was more stunned.

Once I picked my jaw off the floor I said “Why not end it?”. The women turned to me and they were stunned.

“Why end it?” one said.

I asked “Why continue when the signs are so obvious and numerous that is not the right relationship?” I went on to explain that dating is a process we are supposed to use to find the right one for us, and if he is not, let him go and keep looking.

Women now seem to find the wrong guy and then try and make him the right guy! This works less than 1% of the time, if that. They waste years and years crying, fighting, and for what?

Is this really less work and more fun than dumping the wrong guy and putting that same effort into finding the right one? Is it really easier to have the same jamoke do that same shit that pissed you off the last 100 times he did it than to try and find someone who won’t do that to you?

Is it more fun to be disappointed when the same promises are broken time and time again as opposed to trying to find someone whose promise is something more than lip service? Is it more entertaining to try and force, mold, and shape someone into what you want them to be (and they fight you every step of the way) than to find someone who is that guy already? Don’t tell me its hard to find the right guy when you aren’t even lookingand instead wasting time with the wrong one. Don’t complain that you don’t want to be alone when you are with someone who makes you feel alone even when they are there. Don’t tell me you can invest time, energy, effort, tears, etc on the wrong guy, but you can’ invest in yourself? Why don’t you stop trying to make dysfunctional, failing relationships work, and instead focus on you. It is better use of your time, resources and energy.

ARE YOU CONFUSED ABOUT WHAT TO DO WITH YOUR DYSFUNCTIONAL RELATIONSHIP? ARE YOU STRUGGLING TO FIGURE OUT IF IT IS TIME TO MOVE ON OR IF IT IS WORTH FIXING? SOPHIA AND LADY SARAH ARE ABLE TO SEE DEEP INTO THE HEART OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP ISSUES TO SEE WHERE THEY ARE BROKEN. IF IT IS FIXABLE THEY WILL GIVE YOU THE TOOLS TO FIX IT. IF IT IS BROKEN BEYOND REPAIR THEY WILL HELP YOU MOVE ON. GIVE THEM A CALL TODAY AND STOP WASTING TIME IN A RELATIONSHIP THAT IS MAKING YOU UNHAPPY! THEY ARE HERE TO HELP!

With astrology we can analyze the birth chart and determine certain personality traits and characteristics of any individual, as well as the life path they will take. Certain transits in the birth chart, and at times, transiting planets, will determine the answer to the question, “Will He/She Cheat.”

While transits may determine the probability of a cheater, it is important to remember that while a person may have the transits to be a cheater, all individuals have control over their own brain and actions. Sometimes, these tendencies are curbed by conditioning, religious beliefs and maturity.

Having the transits of a cheater doesn’t mean you have to fulfill that role. But, in all probability, in this day and age, chances are strong that if an individual was born with ‘cheating’ transits they will cheat. Sometimes, events (transits) occur that cause a cheater to change their ways, and sometimes these events never occur and the person never changes. That is usually the case. Sometimes, an individual who is not ‘born to cheat,’ gets caught up in situations and makes a decision to stray from an established relationship. This is astrologically speaking, a horse of another color than a ‘born cheater.’

To know if your significant other/interest is a ‘born cheater,’ the transits in the birth chart must be carefully analyzed. There is no single transit for a cheater, there are probably millions. There are no simple generalizations. Often, cheaters are born with planets that represent divorce. This is usually represented by some type of hard aspect between Uranus, and Venus, or Mars and Venus. But, every divorced person is not a cheater. And, at times they are the victims of cheaters.

Cheating birth charts almost always contain a hard Neptune aspect. Neptune is the planet of illusion, delusion and confusion, and well as secrets and lies. A person with prominent Neptune aspects in their chart can soar to the highest of highs, touching the divine or they can sink to the lowest depths of human depravity. Sometimes, in a life time they do both.

Neptune represents both the preacher, the spiritual guru, and the drug addict and the prostitute. It’s a complex planet. But, it’s often there when cheating is involved. Neptune can create a cheater sometimes when it’s touching Venus, Mars or Mercury, especially from the seventh house of marriage. But, this is a generalization again, and this transit alone does not guarantee a cheater, and Neptune in the seventh house can also represent a person who is going to be cheated on. Another possibility of a cheater is someone who has a lot of Gemini or Sagittarius in their chart and likes to keep things interesting.

These individuals are often not satisfied with just one partner and like to experiment and have a distaste for that which becomes mundane. But again, having multiple planets in these signs alone does not guarantee multiple partners. Mars or Pluto in the eighth house is another sign of a person who loves sex.

These people are usually more interested in the erotic side of life than most. This depends upon many factors including what aspects Mars or Pluto in the eighth house is making. Society began to change in the late fifties/early sixties, and a generation was born with Neptune is Scorpio (1957-1970). These individuals in particular, are sometimes unclear about sexual boundaries.

Again, this is a generalization, and if you were born during these years it is absolutely no guarantee you will cheat! But, Scorpio is the natural ruler of the eighth house of shared/joint finances, change and transformation and sex. Sex often has a great fascination for these individuals and some will experience vague and uncertain states connected to emotional and sexual involvement with others. Sometimes it exerts a magnetic influence, although the real thing often does not meet expectations.

So, while there are a million fourteen transits that will help identify a cheater, the entire chart must come under scrutiny before making that accessment. And it all really comes down to what we want as individuals and what price they we willing to pay for it.

used with permission from Leslie Hale, Astrolger